If you’ve been infatuated with your hot friend (who happens to be female), or you’ve just gone to a bar and wanted to pick up an irresistible girl, you might have felt intimidated. Scared. Even nervous.
But overcoming that fear isn’t hard when you learn how to pick up girls in a natural, charismatic way. To attract a woman, you need to understand a few basic principles. You need to be someone who can get her attention, impress her, and seduce her.
This means building chemistry and rapport – but doing so under her radar, so you don’t come across as pushy or weird. You can use these simple moves to get her into bed with you in no time.
1) Get physically close
Seduction can only happen if you are physically close to someone. The first thing you need to do is get close to her, introduce yourself, and be warm and friendly with her. You don’t have to start off by coming on to her – that will just turn her off. But do project authority and confidence, and that you really care about your life and your own interests.
2) Ask her questions and get to know her
Being likable is important. The only way to do this is to bond with her over common interests. Talk to her and get to know her, asking questions about what she’s into. And what’s more, you should really take an interest. Be sure to remember what you hear from her. If she’s into sports, clothes, makeup, whatever – just find a way to connect with her on it. If it’s a topic you don’t know about yourself, don’t fret; just ask her more questions.
You can send her texts when you get her number asking her about her latest purchase or makeup choice, or maybe how she’s gotten her hair done. Try to keep the conversation on her, but if you find something you’re both into, more the better.
3) Introduce a little intimacy
The best time to text her is to talk to her at night or when you know she’s in bed. Why? Because this is her most comfortable, sexy time – and when she’s likely to let down her guard with you. You can start out with just light flirting and chatting in the first few conversations, then progress to a little more suggestive conversation and get her to flirt back with you. If you see her responding in the positive… that’s a clear sign she’s into you.
4) Live a double life
Be a sexy naughty flirt at night, but when you see her in the day, don’t even mention the flirty stuff. Just talk casually and be cool – especially if there are friends around. You only should bring up flirtation when you two are alone – which convinces her that the two of you have a secret passionate love affair going on.
And no one needs to know but you two.
5) Don’t mention how much you like her
A lot of guys make this mistake, but the key is to not let on how much you like her. The second you tell her that, you’ll lose the suspense atmosphere you have created.
She already knows you like her from the flirting, the texting, and the attention you pay her. Her curiosity and excitement are what make her addicted to you, and you don’t want to kill that off by revealing too much too soon.